Post by houseelf on Oct 16, 2022 5:41:10 GMT
I think that's how supported living exists in utopia- and places will exist that offer all these things but I think they are rare now😕
In reality they will want to make sure that his housing benefit is in place and that he doesn't upset other residents, but over and above that it will be the luck of the draw. He will have to engage to make the most of it and from what you have said he may find that difficult.
The other contributing partner in the pregnancy has just recently reached a stage in life where they have a stable job and are of an age where a place of their own is appealing at 41. Prior to this they were couch surfing, car living, sleeping rough etc.
The pregnancy itself is now 20.5 years post incubation and in breathable air.
I feel like resident teen would only benefit from having a sensible fall back adult and that teen mum could probably do with a supportive grownup too. And by supportive I mean telling them when they’re being idiots and not holding it against them.
Children don’t know what’s best for them, I tried to run away in year 6, I finally left home in year 11, I thought I was a grownup who could look after myself. I ended up in sheltered housing at 17, pregnant with a full time job and just enough money to pay my bills, train ticket to work and buy a bag of carrots and a head of celery each week.
I was a child. I can see that now. I learned to manage with what I had available and made sure at least one of my jobs always provided food. But I look back and I see how much I thought I was a grownup and how much I could have used an actual adult who was present in my life.
I think that's how supported living exists in utopia- and places will exist that offer all these things but I think they are rare now😕
In reality they will want to make sure that his housing benefit is in place and that he doesn't upset other residents, but over and above that it will be the luck of the draw. He will have to engage to make the most of it and from what you have said he may find that difficult.
The other contributing partner in the pregnancy has just recently reached a stage in life where they have a stable job and are of an age where a place of their own is appealing at 41. Prior to this they were couch surfing, car living, sleeping rough etc.
The pregnancy itself is now 20.5 years post incubation and in breathable air.
I feel like resident teen would only benefit from having a sensible fall back adult and that teen mum could probably do with a supportive grownup too. And by supportive I mean telling them when they’re being idiots and not holding it against them.
Children don’t know what’s best for them, I tried to run away in year 6, I finally left home in year 11, I thought I was a grownup who could look after myself. I ended up in sheltered housing at 17, pregnant with a full time job and just enough money to pay my bills, train ticket to work and buy a bag of carrots and a head of celery each week.
I was a child. I can see that now. I learned to manage with what I had available and made sure at least one of my jobs always provided food. But I look back and I see how much I thought I was a grownup and how much I could have used an actual adult who was present in my life.
Lalli ❤️.......If only he had a Lalli role model in his life. Unfortunately, he is heavily influenced by a cousin, who is currently playing at being a grown up 🙄
Yes, supported living is a lottery ☹️ I have seen some great examples, and our Social Worker used to work as a support worker, so if he was lucky and got someone like her, it would be ideal. But, at the end of the day, he has to engage, and that was not happening with us, so I hope it works 😢
Me: If you had £20 to buy food what would you get?
RT: A Vape and some snacks.
They have got their work cut out!
The washing is all dry 🥳 We are sorting out another corner of the utility today.
Have a lovely day 🙂
